The Connection Code combines relationship psychology, coaching, events and powerful tools to help you create healthier connections and a better love life.
The problem is rarely lack of effort. It is lack of understanding.
Discover your attachment style and understand why you show up the way you do in relationships.
A coach in your pocket. Get Coach John's read on any conversation before you send it.
Uncover the blind spots and patterns holding you back — with a personalised coaching report.
Speed dating reimagined. Twelve conversations, one evening, a psychology-led experience.
One hour. No scripts. Honest, psychologically-grounded coaching built entirely around your situation.
Real conversations about love, attachment, heartbreak and growth. Honest. No platitudes.
Most relationship pain comes not from bad luck — but from never having learned the core skills of healthy connection.
John Gagiu is a dating coach, former church minister, father of three and founder of The Connection Code. He holds a Master's degree in Psychology and is a Gottman Level 1 certified practitioner.
He has spent years helping people navigate heartbreak, attachment wounds, dating confusion and the quiet devastation of patterns that will not break — not from theory, but from a life that required him to understand these things in himself first.
The problem is rarely lack of effort. It is lack of understanding. That is exactly what The Connection Code was built to fix.
Rooted in the North East. Reaching wherever people need it.
Twelve conversations. One evening. A psychology-led dating experience designed for people who want to actually connect — not perform.
Guided questions that move past small talk.
Structured to create genuine connection.
Premium venues across the city.
No performance required. Just show up.
Premium experience. Not premium price.
Premium ticket holders get a briefing.
You do not fall in love with who they are. You fall in love with their potential. And when they finally become that person — they no longer need you.Coach John Gagiu
Start with the free quiz. Five questions that will change the way you understand yourself in relationships.